Happy New Year! We had a wonderful Christmas Break…my husband took off to stay home with the kids and I for the week. We visited lots of family, ate plenty of good food and had some down time, too. I was looking forward to everyone going back to school and work today so that I could reclaim the house and put it back in order. Getting back to the gym today was also at the top of my list as soon as the kids went to school. Much to my chagrin, my 6 year old woke up to a croupy cough along with lots of sneezing. My plan of having some much-needed alone time this morning quickly flew out the window. So, instead of executing my plan to overhaul the mess that accumulated during the Christmas Break and getting back into a regular workout routine, my youngest and I will get to have some snuggle time together without the rest of the family. Not such a bad deal, if you ask me.
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“What have you done for me lately?” Have you found yourself asking this question (usually in the confines or your mind and sometimes out loud) of your spouse, family member, friend or neighbor?
“Keeping score” seems to be the modus operandi of many individuals
these days: I cooked the dinner, so he should clean up. He went out for drinks with his buddies last night, so I deserve a “girls night out” tonight. I called her last time, it’s her turn to call me. I took out the trash, so she should bring the cans back up. I bathed the kids, so he should tuck them in. She just got a new car, so I am entitled to this new motorcycle.
You get the picture. Whatever happened to the fine art of doing something for someone out of love and concern without thinking about the “payback” you are going to receive in return for your act of kindness?
“One hand washing the other” is very attractive especially when there is some personal gain involved. This became quite evident to me during the many years that I worked in the business world. I was everyone’s best friend when I assisted the Vice President and had the responsibility of fielding all of his phone calls and acted as his “gatekeeper”. Vendors calling in for appointments with my boss fell all over themselves to be nice to me and endear themselves to me. When my role changed at the company and I was no longer working for the VP, several of these same individuals acted as if they didn’t even know me. Their behavior did not come as a surprise to me; however, it was a foreign concept to me.
Let me explain….When I was growing up, my parents never told me that I should help others when given the opportunity. They just did it. As for me, I witnessed their love in action. They had a selfless love for each other and for each one of their ten children. My father often brought cake or donuts from our cousin’s bakery shop to a sick neighbor or the lady down the street who just had a death in the family. It wasn’t the donuts that these people received that meant so much to them. It was the love and compassion that my father displayed during these visits by taking time out of his busy schedule to lend a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on during difficult times.
We have all heard of “Random Acts of Kindness” and “Paying It Forward”. Ask yourself this question: “When was the last time I paid it forward or committed a random act of kindness?” Try it, you just might like it.
1. the state or quality of being or becoming perfect.
2. the highest degree of proficiency, skill, or excellence, as in some art.
3. a perfect embodiment or example of something.
4. a quality, trait, or feature of the highest degree of excellence.
5. the highest or most nearly perfect degree of a quality or trait.
6. the act or fact of perfecting.
When did you and I begin to believe that we should be perfect in every way?
Do you actually believe that it is possible to attain perfection in all that you do? The last time I checked, we were human beings. Human beings are imperfect creatures. We know this. It is a basic truth. Yet, we aspire to be flawless in every aspect of our lives.
Today, I am making myself a promise. I promise to let go of the fallacy that it is possible for me to do everything perfectly.
So what if my house isn’t spotless from top to bottom at any given moment of the day? Too bad if all the beds aren’t made and there is dust on the ceiling fan in my bedroom. The laundry isn’t done? I gained 5 more pounds over the holidays and my pants are too tight? Really? Ask me if I care.
Who am I fooling? Of course, I care. Too much!
I have come to the realization that if I want to be at peace with myself, that I have to learn to let go more. When I became a mother almost 15 years ago, it became evident to me that I had to relax my standards. As a new mom holding down a full-time job outside the home, it just wasn’t possible for me to maintain the same level of cleanliness and organization in my house. Who did I think I was, Wonder Woman? (I’d like to see how Wonder Woman would handle having one kid let alone three! )
When I left my full-time job back in March to become a stay-at-home mom, my neighbor joked with me about how I was turning into June Cleaver. (She once told me that she thought she was going back in time to 1950’s when she stopped by at my house to drop off a gift. The house just happened to be clean, there was a roast in the oven and the table was set for dinner. She said the only thing that was missing was my house dress, apron and pearls.)
Yes, June was nearly close to perfect and she didn’t even own a dishwasher or a microwave!
I don’t claim to be Wonder Woman or June Cleaver, although I wouldn’t mind having those ladies around to give me some pointers. I’m just me- imperfect in many ways – just trying to be the best I can be one day at a time.
How about you?
Dad with sons, Paul and Jim
Dad and Christine on Her First Holy Communion Day
Meghan and her Pop-Pop Bluto
My beloved Father-in-law, Jack Kelly, was affectionately called “Reds” and “Bluto” by his many friends and relatives. Today he would have celebrated his 78th birthday. We lovingly remember him today and everyday. Happy Birthday, Dad! We miss you!
Happy New Year! Here it is January 2nd. Are you ready for the New Year ahead? Well, ready or not it is upon us. Like many, I have no problem with making New Year’s resolutions. It is keeping them that I struggle with. Sure, I want to eat better, exercise more, lose weight, get more sleep, be more organized, keep a cleaner house, etc., etc. One resolution I have made this year is to use my talents and gifts more wisely. When I was a student, I loved to write. As an adult, the only writing that I do generally consists of composing emails and facebook posts. I figured that writing a blog would help me to hone my writing skills as well as give me an opportunity to share information with others. So here it is…Mrs. Kelly’s House.
In the days, weeks and months ahead I will do my best to inform, encourage, uplift and inspire. I intend to open a little window into my world in attempt to brighten yours.
Stay tuned for more good stuff to come!
Best Wishes to you and yours in 2012!